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Coercive Control
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Coercive Control: Coercive control is a sustained pattern of behaviour by which one person dominates another in a close relationship, through isolation, monitoring, degradation, rules and threats.
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- Also called
- controlling behaviour, coercive and controlling behaviour
- Found in
- Consciousness & Spiritual Psychology
- Related
- Gaslighting, Machiavellianism, Dark Triad
Coercive control is a sustained pattern of behaviour by which one person dominates another in a close relationship, through isolation, monitoring, degradation, rules and threats.
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What is coercive control?
Coercive control is defined by its pattern and not by any single act. The controlling person narrows the other's life: who they see, what they spend, what they wear, where they go, when they may speak. Compliance is enforced by criticism, surveillance, threats and sometimes violence, though violence need not be present. The result is a loss of liberty inside one's own home.
Because each incident can look small, the pattern is easy to miss from outside and hard to name from inside. Seen whole it is recognised by specialists as a serious form of abuse and a warning sign of physical danger. It is a matter for outside help, never a contest of tactics to be won.
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What sets Coercive Control apart
Stark's central move was to change the question from what was done to what was taken away. He compared the condition to being held hostage: the harm lies in the loss of liberty, and physical violence may be rare or absent. The pattern is built from ordinary materials, money, the telephone, the car keys, the timetable, which is why it can pass unseen. Law that follows him prosecutes a course of conduct over time, not a single incident.
- Set out by: Evan Stark, Coercive Control, 2007
- Typical means: isolation, monitoring, control of money, degrading rules, threats
- England and Wales: an offence under the Serious Crime Act 2015, section 76
- Scotland: Domestic Abuse (Scotland) Act 2018
- Ireland: Domestic Violence Act 2018
Often mistaken for something else: An unhappy or quarrelsome relationship has conflict on both sides; coercive control is one-sided, and one person's freedom shrinks while the other's rule grows.
The story behind Coercive Control
The sociologist Evan Stark set out the concept in Coercive Control (2007), arguing that domestic abuse is better understood as a course of conduct that removes freedom than as a series of assaults. England and Wales made controlling or coercive behaviour in an intimate or family relationship an offence under the Serious Crime Act 2015. Scotland and Ireland followed with laws passed in 2018.
Why Coercive Control matters
Coercive Control marks the line at which the moves of manipulation stop being a subject of study and become abuse and, in several countries, a crime.
How to read Coercive Control
Readers bring the term to a pattern they are living in or witnessing, as the name to give a doctor, an adviser, a helpline or the police.
Coercive Control in practice: an example
A partner who checks the phone daily, decides which friends are allowed and controls all the money is exercising it.
Where readings of Coercive Control go wrong
If this describes a reader's own situation, the step is to tell someone trusted or a domestic abuse helpline; in danger, to call the police.
Sources and editorial method
This entry summarizes the tradition in the Almanac's own words; where no source is listed, it is an editorial summary rather than a primary text, and symbolic readings are named as the tradition's, not as fact.
- Source
- The Great Almanac Dictionary
- Category
- Consciousness & Spiritual Psychology
- Aliases
- coercive control meaning, controlling behaviour, coercive and controlling behaviour, signs of coercive control
- Last updated
- 2026-09-26
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Common questions
What is coercive control?
It is a pattern of controlling, isolating and intimidating behaviour within a close relationship that takes away the other person's freedom, whether or not there is physical violence.
Is coercive control a crime?
In England and Wales it has been since 2015, and Scotland, Ireland and some other jurisdictions have similar laws. Elsewhere it may be covered by laws on harassment, stalking or domestic abuse.
What should I do if I recognise it?
Tell someone you trust and contact a domestic abuse service, which can advise on safety and next steps in confidence. If you are in immediate danger, call the police.
